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Episode: 1: The Book of Statuses

1: The Book of Statuses

Author: Serial Productions & The New York Times
Duration: 01:01:10

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It’s 2015 and one Brooklyn middle school is about to receive a huge influx of new students.In this episode, Chana Joffe-Walt, a reporter, follows what happens when the School of International Studies’ 6th grade class swells from 30 mostly Latino, Black and Middle Eastern students, to 103 — an influx

almost entirely driven by white families.Everyone wants “what’s best for the school” but it becomes clear that they don’t share the same vision of what “best” means. To get full access to this show, and to other Serial Productions and New York Times podcasts on Apple Podcasts and Spotify, subscribe at nytimes.com/podcasts. To find out about new shows from Serial Productions, and get a look behind the scenes, sign up for our newsletter at nytimes.com/serialnewsletter. Have a story pitch, a tip, or feedback on our shows? Email us at [email protected]

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In this episode, titled "The Book of Statuses," hosted by Chana Joffe-Walt, the narrative explores the dynamics at a Brooklyn middle school in 2015, as the student body swells with an influx of white families. This shift brings tensions surrounding educational equity, fundraising initiatives, and differing views on diversity. The host emphasizes the crucial role of white parents in shaping school dynamics, illustrating the complex challenges of integration amidst historical segregation and privilege. The discussions unfold the challenges faced by parents in addressing systemic inequities within public education.

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00:00:03 Speaker_24
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00:00:15 Speaker_24
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00:00:30 Speaker_04
I started reporting this story at the very same moment as I was trying to figure out my own relationship to the subject of this story, white parents in New York City public schools. I was about to be one of them.

00:00:43 Speaker_04
When my kid was old enough, I started learning about my options. I had many. There was our zoned public school in Brooklyn, or I could apply to a handful of specialty programs. A gifted program, or a magnet school, or a language program.

00:00:58 Speaker_04
So I started to look around. This was five years ago now, but I vividly remember these tours.

00:01:04 Speaker_04
I'd show up in the lobby of a school, at the time listed on the website, look around, and notice that all or almost all of the other parents who'd shown up for the 11 a.m.

00:01:15 Speaker_04
middle-of-the-work-day, early-in-the-shopping-season school tour were other white parents. As a group, we'd walk the halls, following a school administrator, almost always a man or woman of color, through a school full of black and brown kids.

00:01:30 Speaker_04
We'd peer into classroom windows, watch the kids sit in a circle on the rug, ask questions about the lunch menu, homework policy, discipline. Some of us would take notes. and the administrators would sell. The whole thing was essentially a pitch.

00:01:47 Speaker_04
We offer STEM. We have a partnership with Lincoln Center. We have a dance studio. They were pleading with us to please take part in this public school.

00:01:58 Speaker_04
I don't think I've ever felt my own consumer power more viscerally than I did shopping for a public school as a white parent. We were entering schools that people like us had ignored for decades. They were not our places.

00:02:12 Speaker_04
But we were being invited to make them ours.

00:02:15 Speaker_04
The whole thing was made so much more awkward by the fact that nobody on those tours ever acknowledged the obvious racial difference, that roughly 100% of the parents in this group did not match, say, 90% of the kids in this building.

00:02:29 Speaker_04
I remember one time being guided into a classroom and being told that this was the class for gifted kids and noticing, oh, here's where all the white kids are. Everyone on our tour saw this, all of us parents, but nobody said anything, including me.

00:02:46 Speaker_04
We walked out into the hallway. A mom raised her hand and said, I do have one question I've been meaning to ask. And the group got quiet. I was thinking, okay, here it comes. But then she said, do the kids here play outside every day?

00:03:05 Speaker_04
I knew the schools were segregated. I shouldn't have been surprised. By the time I was touring schools as a parent, I'd spent a fair amount of time in schools as a reporter. I'd done stories on the stark inequality in public education.

00:03:18 Speaker_04
And I'd looked at some of the many programs and reforms we've tried to fix our schools. So many ideas. We've tried standardized tests and charter schools.

00:03:27 Speaker_04
We've tried smaller classes, longer school days, stricter discipline, looser discipline, tracking, differentiation. We've decided the problem is teachers. The problem is parents.

00:03:40 Speaker_04
What is true about almost all of these reforms is that when we look for what's broken, for how our schools are failing, we focus on who they're failing. Poor kids, black kids, and brown kids. We ask, why aren't they performing better?

00:03:55 Speaker_04
Why aren't they achieving more? Those are not the right questions. There is a powerful force that is shaping our public schools, arguably the most powerful force. It's there even when we pretend not to notice it, like on that school tour.

00:04:12 Speaker_04
If you want to understand why our schools aren't better, that's where you have to look. You have to look at white parents. From Serial Productions, I'm Chana Jafi-Walt.

00:04:22 Speaker_04
This is Nice White Parents, a series about the 60-year relationship between white parents and the public school down the block.

00:04:44 Speaker_04
I'm going to take you inside a public school building, an utterly ordinary, squat, three-story New York City public school building not far from where I live. This isn't one of the schools I toured, and my own kids don't go here. They're too little.

00:04:58 Speaker_04
This is a middle and high school called the School for International Studies, SIS.

00:05:04 Speaker_04
The story I want to tell you spans decades in this one school building, but I'm going to begin when I first encountered SIS, in the spring of 2015, right before everything changed.

00:05:18 Speaker_04
In 2015, the students at SIS were Black, Latino, and Middle Eastern kids, mostly from working-class and poor families. That year, like the year before and the year before that, the school was shrinking. The principal, Jillian Juman, was worried.

00:05:35 Speaker_05
Yeah, so the last two years we had 30 students in our sixth grade class. And so we really have room for 100. So numbers, I think, are hard.

00:05:46 Speaker_04
Ms. Drummond started to reach out to families from the neighborhood, inviting them to please come take a look. parents started showing up for tours of SIS, mostly groups of white parents. Ms. Juman was thrilled and relieved.

00:06:00 Speaker_04
She walked parents through the building, saying, stop me any time if anyone has any questions, really anything. I want you to feel comfortable. And Ms. Juman says they did have questions, mostly about the poor test scores. That was fair. Ms.

00:06:14 Speaker_04
Juman expected those questions. She did not expect the other set of questions. She got a lot from parents.

00:06:21 Speaker_05
Is there weapons? Are you scanning? Are you a scanning school? Because kids are dangerous and they have weapons. I've heard that there's- Scanning like metal detectors. Right. I heard there's fights and those kinds of things.

00:06:34 Speaker_05
I don't know what school you're talking about. I have never heard of that incident ever happening, ever. So the fears of what this building is and what this building has represented has kind of transcended itself.

00:06:47 Speaker_05
There's a different story of international studies outside this building.

00:06:51 Speaker_04
— How much of that do you think is racism?

00:06:53 Speaker_05
— I think our entire society is fearful of the unknown. — Excellent principal answer.

00:07:06 Speaker_04
Principal Juman is Black, by the way. She needed these parents. Schools get money per student. A shrinking school means a shrinking budget. Ms. Juman was worried, if this continued, the middle school could be in danger of being shut down by the city.

00:07:23 Speaker_04
SIS is in Cobble Hill, Brooklyn. Leafy streets, brownstones. It's a wealthy white neighborhood that's gotten wealthier and whiter in the last decade. But white families were not sending their kids to SIS. Ms. Jumon told these parents, Choose SIS.

00:07:40 Speaker_04
We're turning things around. We're in the process of bringing in a new prestigious international baccalaureate curriculum. Renovating the library. Here's the new gorgeous yard. It's an excellent school.

00:07:53 Speaker_04
The parents seemed interested, but I believe that might have had just as much to do with what was happening outside of the school as what they were seeing inside the building.

00:08:03 Speaker_23
Sure. So my name is Rob Hanson and I'm a parent. So we were, the middle school process is interesting.

00:08:10 Speaker_04
Rob lives nearby SAS, but he had never heard of the school. In his district, Rob could choose from 11 middle schools. The majority of white families sent their kids to the same three schools. Rob's white. Those were the schools he'd heard of.

00:08:25 Speaker_04
And those were the schools he toured. But they were packed. There were too many wealthy white families in the district to continue cramming into just three schools.

00:08:35 Speaker_23
There's a couple of citywide ones where we went and we stood on line for like an hour, an hour and a half, and then joined in an auditorium full of parents, and then had them announce that they were accepting 15 students in the coming class.

00:08:48 Speaker_04
And they'd been running tours all day. Most cities have some amount of school choice like this — tours and options. New York City, though, is an amped-up version of what happens elsewhere.

00:08:59 Speaker_04
The level of competition, the level of wealth, the diversity of people sorting into different schools — everything is more intense. Rob found this process frustrating. Although Rob is very even-tempered, even when he's frustrated, he's Canadian.

00:09:15 Speaker_04
When he gets especially hot, he starts calling things interesting. And this whole middle school thing was very interesting. He asked other parents on school tours, what are we going to do?

00:09:27 Speaker_04
Someone said, have you guys heard of SIS, that building down the block? Rob hadn't. The others hadn't. They decided to all go check it out together.

00:09:36 Speaker_23
I walked away and lots of parents walked away from those tours thinking, wow, you know, people are jamming up into some schools and you're leaving 60 or 70 seats empty all year long.

00:09:47 Speaker_23
You have 30 kids, you spread them out around and that's a big school, then all of a sudden you're sort of like, wait a second, there's nobody here.

00:09:56 Speaker_04
As Rob toured SIS, he had an idea. That night, he emailed Principal Juman, and he asked, would she be open to starting a dual-language French program at SIS? They had one at the elementary school Rob's kids went to, and everyone loved it.

00:10:11 Speaker_04
Sure, Principal Juman was open. So Rob started spreading the word. SIS is starting a dual-language French program. We should all go. Rev says there was interest, but a lot of people he talked to had this question. Wait, are other people going?

00:10:28 Speaker_23
And then families have that kind of fear. Like, what if I'm, you know, if I look around, nobody else came with me? And I came for something that's not here because nobody... So it's a collective action problem.

00:10:39 Speaker_02
Wait, why is a collective ac... Why do you need a collective?

00:10:44 Speaker_23
I think, overall, there's a collective action issue. But if you're interested in this in part because of the French dual language part of it, if you're the only one to show up, there's no French teacher for one student.

00:10:57 Speaker_23
But there's a program if 15 come, if 20 come. But we all have to then take one step forward at exactly the same time. The vision requires people to come. And what if nobody comes?

00:11:10 Speaker_04
When it came time to choose middle schools, parents were supposed to rank their top choices.

00:11:16 Speaker_04
Right before they did, before everyone chose their schools, Rob sent a survey out to the families he'd been talking to to try to ensure that a group of them would choose SIS together. It was a simple survey monkey.

00:11:28 Speaker_04
If enough people said yes, they'd rank SIS as one of their top picks, and they would be able to act as a collective. People said yes. The numbers were stunning. In 2014, there'd been 36 graders at SIS. In 2015, there would be 103.

00:11:40 Speaker_04
That 200% increase was almost entirely white kids. Did you think about yourself as integrators? Or did you think of it? No.

00:11:59 Speaker_23
My pause was because I was trying to think if that had gone through my mind. And no, no, not integrators. Participants in a school that was going to hopefully be diverse.

00:12:16 Speaker_23
But yeah, that's not a framing or a way of thinking about it that would have occurred to me at the time.

00:12:25 Speaker_04
Nobody I talked to from SIS characterized what was happening there as integration. But here's why integration was on my mind. The New York City Department of Education was aware their schools were segregated.

00:12:37 Speaker_04
It was also aware that desegregation is the most effective way to close the gap in achievement between black and white students. But it did not want to mandate racial integration through zoning or school placements.

00:12:51 Speaker_04
The city was trying to make integration happen through choice, hoping to lure white families into segregated schools. The school tours I went on for my own kids, those sparkly programs and amenities, that was the new approach to integration.

00:13:07 Speaker_04
But can this work for white parents to opt in to integration? Not because we have to or because it's the right thing to do, but because it's a selling point. Because we get a dance studio and STEM and a school that was hopefully diverse.

00:13:23 Speaker_04
Integration without talking about race. The kids at SIS, though, they did talk about race. Immediately.

00:13:37 Speaker_04
Fall 2015, the first few weeks of school, a senior named Kristen leans over to her classmate Chris and mumbles, there are a lot of white kids in this school. And Chris says, oh yeah, a teacher warned me about that over the summer.

00:13:50 Speaker_12
— Like, he told me, oh, there's going to be a lot of white kids coming in, French white kids, from upper economic statuses, so be prepared for that.

00:13:59 Speaker_04
Kristin nods. Yeah, I guess we were prepared. And then she turns to me to say, I should have been ready for that. We saw the parents on the tours last year.

00:14:08 Speaker_21
We would see them walk through the hall, but we never knew it was so serious that a whole group of Caucasians would come in. It would be so diverse. But it was such a big change. prejudice or anything, but I noticed the big change.

00:14:23 Speaker_21
High schoolers are more Hispanics and Blacks with a few Caucasians, and then the new groups that came in were all Caucasians. They tried to make it so diverse. Diverse.

00:14:33 Speaker_04
This was a word I heard over and over in the first few weeks of school. Diversity.

00:14:38 Speaker_00
I love diversity, so when I just see other white kids, I'm like, so?

00:14:44 Speaker_04
Diversity seemed to have two different definitions. White families would talk about all the diversity at SIS, and they were talking about black and Hispanic kids. When kids of color noted the diversity, they were referring to the new white kids.

00:14:59 Speaker_04
For a lot of kids of color, this looked a lot like something they'd already seen happen in their neighborhoods. White families showing up in large numbers, taking over stores, familiar spots. There's a word for that. It's gentrification.

00:15:12 Speaker_04
But I noticed that no one was using that word about the school. What was happening here was diversity. That's how the adults talked about it. Diversity is a good thing, something you're supposed to be okay with. For the most part, the kids were.

00:15:29 Speaker_04
It was different for the parents. Some of them saw specific advantages to the diversity, like Kenya Blunt, the co-vice president of the PTA at SAS. He was excited.

00:15:41 Speaker_01
having the new parents coming in and the diversity that particularly maybe comes from the new, as I'll call it, the new neighborhood, the way that things are changing in the neighborhood, is that we have a gentleman who his profession is fundraising.

00:15:59 Speaker_04
Rob Hanson, the dad who started the SurveyMonkey. Rob raises money for nonprofits and foundations for a living. Over the course of the year, I'll hear Rob Hanson referred to as Todd Hanson, Ted Manson, Mr. Hanson.

00:16:14 Speaker_04
Kenya was the only one who went with the gentleman whose profession is fundraising. The most common was just the guy who gets the money. Rob told the PTA he was eager to raise money for the school.

00:16:26 Speaker_04
To Kenya, this meant more resources at his own kid's school. His boys and all the kids could benefit.

00:16:33 Speaker_01
He has brought on the challenge and taken it upon himself to raise $50,000. So 5-0 with three zeros after that. Yes, $50,000. Which, again, this again goes back to the whole, I'll say, diversity thing and new people who are thinking outside the box.

00:16:52 Speaker_01
As our PTA, I don't think that we were thinking that big.

00:16:56 Speaker_04
they were definitely not thinking that big, because the PTA was run by Aimee Hernandez and her co-president, Susan Mosker. Aimee is not a gentleman who fundraises. She's a social worker.

00:17:08 Speaker_04
The first time I met Aimee, she was wearing a t-shirt that said, I'm not spoiled. My husband just loves me. She's Puerto Rican, grew up in Brooklyn. Her husband, Maurice, is Puerto Rican and black, and really does adore her. He grew up in Brooklyn, too.

00:17:22 Speaker_04
They have one daughter, one pit bull, one Persian cat, and one school.

00:17:27 Speaker_09
I make it my business to stick myself in her school.

00:17:30 Speaker_04
For Aimee, the new diversity, he gave her paws.

00:17:34 Speaker_10
Like when I saw in September the population that came in, I was like, oh, that's a little frightening.

00:17:41 Speaker_04
And even the socio... You can describe it for people who are on the radio and don't know what you saw.

00:17:47 Speaker_10
I saw a lot of white people with very high socioeconomic backgrounds. You know, they have money and that's great, but... Money tends to scare people, and I'm one of the people it scares.

00:18:01 Speaker_10
I'm one of the people it scares because it twists everything around, and I don't like that. I don't like that. I don't like that.

00:18:09 Speaker_10
I'd rather have a dinner where people of different cultures bring their food and we share together than have somebody else cater it. That's how I feel you build community. I'm a social worker. That's my background, and that's what I believe in.

00:18:23 Speaker_04
Aimee was in her second year at the school. The year before, she put on community events, teacher appreciation, a spring carnival with face painting and hot dogs.

00:18:33 Speaker_04
They raised some money here and there, but Aimee's vision for the PTA wasn't really about fundraising. The new parents, though, they wanted to be active in their new school, and they were accustomed to supporting their kids' schools by fundraising.

00:18:46 Speaker_04
The two approaches came face-to-face at a PTA meeting in October.

00:18:50 Speaker_10
Three more minutes, and then it's up to everyone. Because y'all got to go home. You got to go home.

00:18:58 Speaker_04
There are about a dozen grown-ups sitting on small plastic chairs around a classroom table. The PTA executive board. Principal Juman is here, too. Aimee's leading, and the principal jumps in.

00:19:11 Speaker_04
She says she wants a minute to share how much the new fundraising committee had raised so far. Aimee looks confused. Principal Jumon goes on to say, the new fundraising committee has had a lot of success.

00:19:22 Speaker_05
But total, they have raised, according to Rob, about $18,000. And then we just had a donation from a family a couple weeks ago who want to be anonymous. that they're going to give either $5,000 to $10,000 in December. So this is big money.

00:19:39 Speaker_04
People seem unclear what to do with their faces. This is good news, right? But also, wait, what's the fundraising committee? — Ayme turns to her husband, Maurice, a retired cop.

00:19:52 Speaker_04
Maurice is also the treasurer of the PTA, because when he retired, his wife told him he couldn't just sit around at home. Maurice shrugs at Ayme, doesn't seem to know anything about this new money. Ayme turns back to Principal Juman.

00:20:05 Speaker_09
So, can we use that money? — That was the question, if the PTA can have access to this money, because I know already, like,

00:20:12 Speaker_05
— But what is the PTA? So that's also the question that keeps going around. So this $18,000, Rob has raised under the umbrella of PTA.

00:20:21 Speaker_04
— That's Principal Juman. — OK. — So, I think.

00:20:25 Speaker_10
— But who's… — Who's got it and where's it going? — This PTA member don't know nothing about it, so, you know?

00:20:33 Speaker_15
— So how can that be accessed for Mr. Negron?

00:20:36 Speaker_04
— Maurice asks, how can that money be accessed for Mr. Negron, who wants new gym uniforms? Or Mr. Lowe, to get his microscopes.

00:20:44 Speaker_09
I mean, nods. — I mean, God bless Robin, more power to him.

00:20:47 Speaker_10
But he's not an official member, so I think that's what makes it confusing, at least for me. You know, he is a PTA member because he's a parent, but he's not part of the executive board, so I think that's what makes it— — That's probably true.

00:20:59 Speaker_10
— Yeah, it makes it tricky. I mean, and again, I'm not—

00:21:06 Speaker_04
Principal Juma nods, repeats that she wishes Rob had been able to make it. She was hoping everyone could be here and get on the same page about money. But Rob is chaperoning a 6th grade overnight trip. They're late getting back.

00:21:20 Speaker_04
One mom, a white woman, who came in with a new group of sixth graders, says, look, I know Rob. He means well.

00:21:27 Speaker_06
You know, I think Rob is a professional fundraiser. And therefore he took it as his initiative to do the fundraising. And I think that's great. But I don't, he should communicate with the media.

00:21:40 Speaker_06
impression is I don't think he's meaning to offend anybody. I think he's sort of so laser-focused that he's not thinking about like, well, maybe you might want to let somebody know what you're doing.

00:21:49 Speaker_05
And he's been amazing. He really has.

00:21:52 Speaker_04
That's Principal Juman. At this point, everyone seems to feel a little weird about how long they've spent talking about a fellow parent who is not present. And anyway, it's money for the school. We're all for that. We just need better communication.

00:22:07 Speaker_04
Aimee says, yeah, it's just usually money raised by parents goes through the PTA, so we can all talk about where to spend it.

00:22:14 Speaker_10
Because then you have to decide who has the say, because if it's a collective PTA, then it would be... Hey! There he is!

00:22:26 Speaker_04
Rob walks into the room. He just got back from the 6th grade trip. He sits down, and they all start to talk. We need to sort out some questions about money.

00:22:36 Speaker_04
Then a mom from the fundraising committee says she's worried about me recording and asks me to stop. So I do.

00:22:41 Speaker_15
They let me stay, though. I take notes.

00:22:48 Speaker_04
Rab apologizes, and then explains. A group of them have been meeting to raise money for the school. The new dual-language French program is expensive, and they promised the principal they'd help raise money to cover it.

00:23:01 Speaker_04
They were just eager to help, Rab says, so they formed a committee. He's really sorry. He should have communicated and coordinated better with the PTA. But good news is, it's going great.

00:23:12 Speaker_04
Someone has a contact with the French embassy, a guy at the cultural services arm in New York, and he says he wants to help cover the costs of new French teachers and books. They've already kicked in around 10 grand.

00:23:25 Speaker_04
At this point in my notes, I wrote, lots of looks, big money. Rob says, the embassy suggested we do a fundraiser, an event. They can help. Here I wrote, looks. Confused? Mad? Nobody really talking.

00:23:42 Speaker_04
Aimee says, this fundraiser will be at the school though, right? And free for everyone. Rob says, yes. Good, good. She asks one more time, free. I just want to make sure everyone can go. Lots of nods. Rob says, totally.

00:23:58 Speaker_04
This is a community event for our community. After about 20 minutes, Aimee says, we're out of time, guys. I can't tell if this is out of a professional commitment Aimee has to stick to the schedule or a personal commitment to getting out of that room.

00:24:21 Speaker_04
Before I came to SAS, I never thought much about the role of PTAs. Ever. At SAS, early on, I had this feeling of, oh, a PTA is actually critical to the success of an integrated school. A PTA has a very simple democratic structure.

00:24:38 Speaker_04
Every parent has an equal vote. Smart. It's like a built-in system to equalize power. To help them make a budget together, make decisions, set priorities. Collectively. or not.

00:24:51 Speaker_13
It's another PTA meeting, and the whole collective thing is not really happening. It seems like the new parents are still raising money separate from the PTA, and the communication problems do not seem to be resolved.

00:25:00 Speaker_04
And some of the new parents have an idea. They propose a formal separation, the PTA and the people doing fundraising. Rav says this way there'd be two organizations collecting money for SAS.

00:25:26 Speaker_23
There would be two sorts of ways dollars are raised. One would be a community raise, big sales, direct gifts.

00:25:34 Speaker_04
That would be the PTA side, the community funds. Then there would be a separate organization that would go after grants and big donors.

00:25:42 Speaker_04
Up until this point, there seemed to be tension bubbling under the surface between the new parents and the old parents, but it wasn't really until this moment that the unsaid started to get said, mostly by Amy's husband, Maurice.

00:25:56 Speaker_15
I think a lot of us feel that there's two different groups. It's the fundraising group and the PTA, which is, you know, that's what it looks like. You guys have this goal of making $50,000 and it's going to the French program.

00:26:11 Speaker_15
Now, as you said, what about the rest of the school? Where's all this money going? We have no answer. We don't know.

00:26:19 Speaker_04
easy to feel steamrolled. That's Maureen, a white mom who's new. There are lots of nods. Maurice is asking, is this new money you're talking about, is it just for the new French dual-language program?

00:26:34 Speaker_04
Which is another way of asking, is this money just for your kids, or is it for everybody? Rab says emphatically, it's for everybody. Maurice says, really?

00:26:44 Speaker_15
Yeah, I mean, that's being naive. You think, OK, they're going to donate all this money to the French Embassy, and we're going to, OK, well, we're going to buy new chalkboards. That's kind of being naive. Now you're saying the $50,000 is going to be

00:26:57 Speaker_15
for the PTA community to decide where it's going to go. So, I mean, I hear what you're saying, which just sounds great. But again, maybe I'm still thinking about last meeting when Jillian said, OK, well, we're only going to get a percentage of that.

00:27:09 Speaker_15
So we still don't have an answer.

00:27:11 Speaker_04
Leader talking to Rob. I learned that the new separate fundraising arm he's talking about is actually a foundation. They want to create a school-based foundation at SIS. The plan is to call it the Brooklyn World Project.

00:27:26 Speaker_04
I asked Rob, why do you need another way to raise money? There's a PTA. Most people have heard of a school PTA. Why do you need a separate organization that's not the PTA?

00:27:37 Speaker_23
Yeah. So probably the easiest way to explain it is to not think about it from the school side, but to think about it from the potential donor side.

00:27:48 Speaker_23
So a basic idea that we're following is that the, let's say that international says we want to do extended day and we want to do theater.

00:27:56 Speaker_23
And so we go and we find a donor who loves theater and loves the French language and loves the idea that kids who've never spoken French and had no exposure

00:28:06 Speaker_23
get the chance to go and compete, actually, against some of the most established schools in the city. And a donor just loves that. They're like, I love it. I love giving that kind of opportunity to kids.

00:28:15 Speaker_23
I'm going to cover all of that, because I think it's that important. If that money goes to the PTA, you could have a situation where the PTA says, or members of the PTA say, I don't know that we really like the theater program. I'm not sure.

00:28:27 Speaker_23
I think that we should be using those dollars to do x or y or z. Now, normally, you'd be able to say, well, donor intent is what it is, you should probably use it towards what it was intended for.

00:28:39 Speaker_04
I mean, normally in another fundraising context.

00:28:42 Speaker_23
Meaning in non-profits. So there's a basic kind of morality of a non-profit to say, if a donor gives it to you to do something, you should try to do that. Donor intent's an important part of it. It's sort of a trust that's established.

00:28:54 Speaker_04
Rob says, because the PTA is a democracy, it makes things complicated. The very thing I saw as the strength of a PTA, one parent, one vote. To Rob, that's a problem for fundraising. Parents come and go and change their minds about what's important.

00:29:10 Speaker_04
A private donor wants stability. And Rob is trying to raise money for the kind of programming that was available at his son's wealthy elementary school. At that school, Rob was co-president of the PTA.

00:29:23 Speaker_04
And the previous year, his PTA pulled in close to $800,000. $800,000. Money that paid for after-school programming and ballroom dancing, chess, art, music, a garden.

00:29:36 Speaker_04
$800,000 for a school that is 75% white and serves a tiny fraction of the poor kids in the district. There aren't enough wealthy parents at SIS to raise that kind of money. That year Rob helped raise $800,000. The SIS PTA raised $2,000.

00:29:55 Speaker_04
So Rob was trying to be creative. A foundation was a way for his new school to catch up. The school leadership, the principal, was behind the idea. Ms. Dumont told me she saw the foundation as a path to equity and access.

00:30:09 Speaker_04
More resources meant they'd be able to provide all kids with opportunities, like, say, a school trip to France. But the parent leadership, they found it annoying.

00:30:21 Speaker_04
Aimee knew the new parents were trying to help the school, but she already liked the school. She felt like she was being saved against her will. Plus, they're new, she said. Shouldn't we be the ones helping them?

00:30:34 Speaker_04
She was fine with them bringing in ideas, but she didn't understand why they hadn't brought them to her first. They hadn't thought to consult her.

00:30:42 Speaker_04
She said to me multiple times, why are they coming up with all these private plans and meeting in secret committees? You were pissed about that.

00:30:50 Speaker_10
Totally.

00:30:51 Speaker_04
Yeah.

00:30:51 Speaker_10
Because I wasn't involved.

00:30:53 Speaker_04
Why were you angry about that?

00:30:55 Speaker_10
Because here I am trying to build something with the school. Why didn't you just involve me? Why didn't you just tell me about it? It felt like it was a secret. I don't know if it was or if it wasn't. I'm invested in the school.

00:31:09 Speaker_10
Clearly I've proven to you I'm invested in the school. And you couldn't tell us that you wanted to fundraise in a different way.

00:31:16 Speaker_04
Rob and the new parents did tell the principal that they wanted to fundraise in a different way. But Aimee felt like, what about the rest of us? She felt like the PTA was ignored. At that last meeting, Aimee went quiet.

00:31:30 Speaker_04
She told me she just felt enraged and then embarrassed for feeling so enraged.

00:31:35 Speaker_10
I guess I just threw a tantrum. And I just didn't want to be a part of it, which is not right. But I think, again, in the moment, I just felt like, you know, I was hurt.

00:31:48 Speaker_04
Was the tantrum the thing I saw? Because that did not seem like a tantrum.

00:31:52 Speaker_10
No, that was not a tantrum. I could have been a lot worse, and I was really, really trying to restrain myself. Yeah, I really was. That was really under control. Really, really under control. It wasn't, but it was really, really under control.

00:32:04 Speaker_09
I asked, was there another time? Tantrum? Yeah, at home with my husband. That's when I threw my tantrum. So it was tense. Among the parents.

00:32:15 Speaker_04
But this is a school. For children. Did it matter if the adults were not getting along? Or who controlled which pot of money? Yes. Yes it did. That's coming up after the break. The school year went on.

00:32:33 Speaker_04
Rob's fundraising committee moved forward with the French embassy to plan a fundraiser. It was now being called a gala. The PTA moved forward with parent volunteers to plan a spring carnival. It was being called the Spring Carnival.

00:32:48 Speaker_04
Quiet resentments locked in place. On the phone one night, IME's co-president on the PTA, Susan Mosker, told me she worried the school was changing in ways that were damaging to the community.

00:33:01 Speaker_04
Susan is white herself, but she didn't come in with the new white parents. When she started, her son was one of the only white kids in the school. And now she felt like they were all being written into a narrative that wasn't true.

00:33:13 Speaker_04
That SIS was a bad school before, and now that the new white families had arrived, it was being turned around.

00:33:20 Speaker_13
It is noticeable. I think it is something that even my child has picked up on, you know, just like a very different

00:33:29 Speaker_13
feeling among some of the students and some of the parents, you know, this real sense again that here they come to save our poor, struggling school that couldn't possibly make it on its own without their money and their vision.

00:33:43 Speaker_13
And we do not all feel that that is necessarily the case.

00:33:48 Speaker_04
What do you feel? This was a long conversation. The upshot? She's not happy with the way the new parents are behaving. It was true. A new narrative was taking hold at SIS. It's not like the kids were talking about it all the time, but it was in the air.

00:34:12 Speaker_04
And the kids were starting to pick up on who was valued and why. In the cafeteria, I'd hear middle schoolers saying, the French kids could kill someone and they'd get away with it.

00:34:23 Speaker_04
Upstairs in the high school, I'd hear kids complain, all the attention has shifted to the new middle schoolers. We're being pushed aside. And down in the library, I met three sixth grade boys, white boys, new to SAS.

00:34:37 Speaker_04
They're sweaty from playing soccer and looking very small against their huge backpacks. These boys, even at 11 years old, they've absorbed the same messages. That SIS wasn't so good before. It was a bad school.

00:34:52 Speaker_19
— The kids wouldn't pay attention, and they had to zone out every little thing. And I bet they learned very little. And now this generation with us, I think we're doing a lot better. And I think that we're learning at a much faster pace.

00:35:11 Speaker_04
He and his friends, they've turned the school around. That's what he's learning.

00:35:16 Speaker_19
It's going to be one of the top choices already in the book. When you're applying to middle schools, you get a book on statuses and stuff. And I think this school is actually really high up in the statuses.

00:35:31 Speaker_04
Nobody calls it the book on statuses. They call it a directory of schools, with info like enrollment numbers for different schools, test scores, and special programs.

00:35:41 Speaker_04
But I love that he calls it the book on statuses, because this is what happened at SIS. The school had a bad reputation among white families, and then suddenly it was in demand. Its status had changed because of the white kids.

00:35:57 Speaker_04
A powerful draw for white families into any school is other white families. When there are enough other white families in a school, you reach what one study calls a bliss point. This is a real thing, researchers study.

00:36:11 Speaker_04
How many white kids are needed at a school to make other white families feel comfortable? That number, the bliss point, is 26%. That fall, white families were crowding the school tours at SIS.

00:36:25 Speaker_04
Not because the test scores had improved, the new scores hadn't even come out yet, but because the other white families made them feel blissfully comfortable.

00:36:41 Speaker_04
Of course, the thing that made the new white parents comfortable coming to SAS in the first place was the promise of a French program. They went to French, and they got French. So now, all the 6th, 7th, 8th, and 9th graders are learning French.

00:36:57 Speaker_04
It wasn't a true dual-language program, where kids learned in French for half the day or whatever. That first year, most of the French was happening in the after-school program.

00:37:06 Speaker_04
You sign up for regular after-school stuff like culinary or soccer or drama, and it would be conducted in French.

00:37:16 Speaker_06
We're in the auditorium, and it's sweet.

00:37:23 Speaker_04
The kids are on stage, rehearsing this play they wrote in French. It looks like they're having fun. But I couldn't help feeling like there's something off-balance about this.

00:37:34 Speaker_04
Most of the kids doing this drama program seem to be native French speakers, but not all. A sixth grader, named Maya, is standing to the side of the stage, script in hand, waiting for her line.

00:37:46 Speaker_16
For me, it's a bit weird because I have no idea what they're saying. Yeah.

00:37:53 Speaker_04
Really? Even in the play that you've been practicing, you don't know what they're saying?

00:37:57 Speaker_16
Yeah, I don't know what they're saying. Sometimes when a teacher talks in French to the class, I don't understand. And do you figure it out, or is it confusing? Confusing.

00:38:09 Speaker_04
Still, she's excited. She's grinning, watching the other kids on stage. She's hanging out with her friend Constance. Maya gets up to deliver her lines.

00:38:18 Speaker_17
Constance, a native French speaker, tells Maya, you said the wrong thing. Constance corrects her, pronounces it for her.

00:38:42 Speaker_04
Maya says, I can't. And her friend says, I'll do it for you. Learning another language is not new to Maya.

00:38:54 Speaker_16
My dad speaks Arabic and my mom's Turkish. And now you're learning French. Yes. So confusing. Three languages at the same time.

00:39:10 Speaker_04
When the new white parents asked for a dual-language French program at SIS, Principal Juman said yes.

00:39:17 Speaker_04
SIS was supposedly an international school, but she told me they didn't really have a lot of international programming, so it seemed like a good idea to her. But there was no school-wide debate about it, or consensus. The community didn't decide.

00:39:32 Speaker_04
What if they had? More than a third of the families at SIS are Hispanic. What if the dual-language program was Spanish or Arabic? 10% of the students speak Arabic.

00:39:45 Speaker_04
If they had made a different choice, if SIS had a dual-language Arabic program, Maya would be teaching Constance how to read her lines. She'd be the one explaining the cultural references and teasing her friend about her terrible accent.

00:39:59 Speaker_04
She'd be the one translating the teacher's stage directions. There was money for a French program, which meant that at SAS, French had value. Arabic didn't. Spanish didn't. That's something Maya is learning at school, along with her French script.

00:40:21 Speaker_04
From the very beginning, Aimi and the others had insisted on three things from the new parents and the fundraising committee.

00:40:29 Speaker_04
That the gala fundraiser they were planning with the French embassy would, number one, be open to everyone, number two, take place at the school, and number three, be free.

00:40:40 Speaker_04
Then, four weeks before the gala, the PTA asked for an update, and a parent named Deb showed up, a mom to a new sixth grader, part of Rob's fundraising committee.

00:40:52 Speaker_07
So I will start with the fact that I had a nice conversation with Fabrice. Is it Fabrice?

00:41:01 Speaker_04
Deb volunteered early on to help organize the party, and she tells everyone, I met with our partner, Fabrice, at the French embassy. And the event can't be at the school. The embassy won't be able to draw their supporters to Brooklyn.

00:41:15 Speaker_04
It'll be at the Cultural Services Building on the Upper East Side, Manhattan, 45 minutes away.

00:41:21 Speaker_07
I apologize if I'm saying things you guys already know, but I didn't know some of this info, so it was good. is really, it's their event. It's not really our event. It's their event.

00:41:36 Speaker_04
— That's Susan, with the O. Maurice leans forward, elbows on the table. Aimee is not here. She knew the meeting would be almost entirely about fundraising, and she's sitting this one out.

00:41:50 Speaker_04
Maurice is now concentrating on Rob, who turns to Deb and says, in what sense is it their event? They make the rules, she says.

00:42:00 Speaker_07
With our input, but there are certain things that are not flexible. The biggest thing is nobody will be allowed in at the door. You have to be on a list. You have to RSVP. You have to be on the list. All names. Security.

00:42:16 Speaker_04
It's a government building, after all.

00:42:18 Speaker_07
He sends out the invitation to 22,000 people on his mailing list. So now making it a free event is a problem because now we're inviting 22,000 people for free to drink wine and eat food that may not have any interest in us.

00:42:36 Speaker_07
So, we thought the best thing to do would be a suggested donation.

00:42:41 Speaker_04
Can't afford to go. Can I give a variant on that?

00:42:43 Speaker_07
Yeah.

00:42:43 Speaker_04
That's Rob asking to give a variant. Which is, how about we have a separate invitation for our people that doesn't ask for any money? Rob seems to be picking up on the instant irritation in this room, and he's adding many variants to Deb's report.

00:43:00 Speaker_23
It's either a modified version or just a clarity that everybody in this community... He won't.

00:43:06 Speaker_07
There'll be one invite, it will say the same thing. That's what I suggested. I suggested $50 a head for outside.

00:43:12 Speaker_23
Even if we simply put a cover note saying no charge, you know, we want you to come join us in our community.

00:43:19 Speaker_07
Right, but on the invite it will say suggested donation, then if you want to, however we want to forward it, we can say that. But they will only do one invite.

00:43:28 Speaker_04
Deb hasn't been able to make previous PTA meetings. So all Deb knows is she got an email from the fundraising committee at our kids' new school, which she assumed was part of the PTA.

00:43:40 Speaker_04
She's volunteering her time, a ton of her time, to organize a huge event. She does not understand that the email list she's on is for a separate fundraising committee that just became even more unpopular with the official PTA leadership.

00:43:56 Speaker_04
I think I stopped moving watching Deb. It's so tense. She's like a porcupine who's just wandered into a balloon store.

00:44:03 Speaker_07
— They're serving wine, water, and then French hors d'oeuvres. As far as the auction, we have a couple of cleanses, we have restaurants, soccer camp. We have vacation rental in California. We got a couple hair salons. Very few from the community here.

00:44:24 Speaker_07
And that's really what I wanted to talk about.

00:44:27 Speaker_13
Few from the parent community or the geographic community?

00:44:29 Speaker_07
Parent community and geographic community.

00:44:32 Speaker_04
Deb says at her kids' elementary school, they get a lot more donated items from parents. She tells The Room, you can ask at the restaurants you go to if they do gift certificates. The salon, your employers. You'd be surprised what people can offer.

00:44:46 Speaker_04
Just ask.

00:44:47 Speaker_07
You know, and that's what I do with my friends. Most of my friends, though, they're all in other schools. I'm just new here. I don't really know many people. The only people I've been able to reach out to are the 36 on Rob's email list.

00:45:02 Speaker_07
And a quarter of them gave, donated something already, like found something. So I'm telling you that house in Sonoma County is gorgeous. Four bedroom, three bath, beautiful.

00:45:17 Speaker_04
I think about a PTA meeting a few months before, where I watched Aimee gently explain to one of the new parents why it might be hard for some families to throw in $5 for classroom supplies, that even being asked to donate can feel alienating.

00:45:33 Speaker_04
Some people in this room seem to be experiencing this whole thing as a routine update about public school volunteering. Others look like someone who's walked into the wrong room and is now looking around to the friends they came with for affirmation.

00:45:47 Speaker_04
We're in the wrong room, right? How do we get out?

00:45:51 Speaker_07
Usually I get more tickets to shows, games, things. Like, I've gotten Broadway tickets, but I haven't gotten anything in the ticket arena. Knicks.

00:46:03 Speaker_13
I have a content at the Nets. I'm willing to reach out.

00:46:06 Speaker_07
Nets, yeah. They always go. Everybody wants to go to a game. There's always somebody. And they also make great Christmas gifts. And that's the other thing where we're lacking is actual items.

00:46:18 Speaker_07
We used to have a parent, well, we still have the parent, but she's not in my school, that worked at Tiffany. And we always had some beautiful Tiffany pieces or, you know, coach bag, some products, makes it look nice.

00:46:38 Speaker_04
I spent a small chunk of that meeting occupied by an admittedly sentimental thought. Just looking around, the room was kind of incredible.

00:46:47 Speaker_04
People with homes in Sonoma and people who live in public housing, sitting together at a long wooden table in the library of a public school that they all share. That never happens. And I didn't want them to mess it up. But of course they are.

00:47:03 Speaker_04
This is not something we have a lot of practice in. New York City has one of the most segregated school systems in the country. White parents here have very little practice sharing public schools. Maybe this is all to be expected.

00:47:18 Speaker_04
White parents will charge ahead, will sometimes be careless, secretive, or entitled. In response, parents of color will sometimes be cautious or distrustful, defensive. These are well-established patterns, repeated over generations.

00:47:34 Speaker_04
It's easier for us to continue operating on separate tracks, because it's what we already know how to do. The guy from the French embassy apparently has a mailing list of 22,000 people in the New York area. 300 people RSVP'd to the gala for SIS.

00:47:56 Speaker_04
I couldn't believe it. And I couldn't believe that one of them was Aimee.

00:48:00 Speaker_03
— You guys look lovely. — How are ya?

00:48:06 Speaker_04
— Aimee, Maurice, and Susan carpooled together to the Upper East Side. It's winter. Central Park is across the street. It's cold. Aimee told me she decided she needed to be a grown-up and come.

00:48:18 Speaker_04
They got stuck in traffic, so they're rushing up the sidewalk.

00:48:20 Speaker_10
— We're not that late, are we, Susan? — It's not serious. — No, we're not that late.

00:48:26 Speaker_04
— The cultural services building is ivy-covered, with columns. The doors are wrought iron. The entryway is marble. A huge marble staircase winds up the side of the room. Later, I look up the architectural style. Italian Renaissance, Palazzo style.

00:48:50 Speaker_04
It's a palace. There are people milling, sampling 17 different cheeses. I don't recognize anyone else from the school.

00:48:59 Speaker_04
Who are these people who have chosen to come out on a weekday evening for a fundraising event for a not-prominent or well-known-at-all public school in Brooklyn?

00:49:08 Speaker_25
I'm not involved with the school, but my wife is involved with the... I started asking people how they heard about the event.

00:49:14 Speaker_08
And what brought you here tonight? Actually, an invitation by my wonderful French professor.

00:49:21 Speaker_04
A lady named Barbara tells me she's never heard of SAS, like most people here. But she loves French, and she loves Paris, and it sounded like a fun night with other people who do, too. She goes to France every year.

00:49:32 Speaker_08
— October is my saison préférée. Actually, I found this October too warm, but I like it when it's a nice fall, crisp, and you wear your scarf, your foulard.

00:49:47 Speaker_04
I enjoy a person who likes to talk, where you can just get on their ride and sit back. Barbara is definitely that kind of person.

00:49:54 Speaker_08
And my apartment in Paris is sort of — I'm confused sometimes. I say, am I in Gramercy Park or am I in Saint-Germain-des-Prés? It's got a similar ambiance of being a neighborhood. It's great. Have you been? Oh my God, she hasn't been to Paris.

00:50:13 Speaker_04
Barbara's looking around for her French teacher to tell her the news. Barbara's teacher, it turns out, heard about this evening the same way most people here did. She was invited by this man, Fabrice.

00:50:24 Speaker_26
— For the School for International Studies, we are hoping we will raise $100,000 each year for the next seven years.

00:50:34 Speaker_04
Fabrice Germain works for the cultural services arm of the French embassy. He tells me he's fundraising for dual-language programs in public schools because his mission is to promote French language and culture.

00:50:46 Speaker_04
He called it soft power, which I was kind of surprised he said out loud, since I associate that with something we do in developing countries, not something you're allowed to do in American public schools.

00:50:58 Speaker_04
After Fabrice and I talked, I walked into the main room and immediately saw Maurice. Maurice was so skeptical of this whole embassy thing.

00:51:07 Speaker_04
But there he is at a table selling raffle tickets next to Aimi, cheerfully raising money for a program neither of them ever wanted at their school.

00:51:16 Speaker_14
We are raffling off two airline tickets to France. One blue ticket's going to win. It could be yours.

00:51:24 Speaker_04
Maurice, amiable as ever, is trying, and mostly failing, to convert ticket sales into social connections. He asks everyone, so if you win, when are you thinking of going? Oh, you're going anyway? For Easter? Oh, nice.

00:51:39 Speaker_15
How's the weather there on Easter?

00:51:42 Speaker_18
— Yes, I am from France.

00:51:43 Speaker_15
— So how's the weather there on Easter?

00:51:44 Speaker_18
— Good, fantastic. Before we do it, I have a question. Can I, from here, from these tickets, buy something to go from Paris to Marseille when I'm leaving?

00:51:58 Speaker_15
— No.

00:51:58 Speaker_04
— Barbara, from Gramercy Park, the woman who loves fall in Paris, wanders across the marble floor toward the raffle table, the side where Aimee is sitting. And I thought, oh, no.

00:52:11 Speaker_08
Pleasure to meet you. Hi, how are you? Good, thank you. You're one of the parents of a bilingual student? She's not bilingual, but she does go to the school. She will be bilingual eventually. Yes, eventually. What a wonderful thing.

00:52:25 Speaker_08
Are you pleased with the program? Yes, I love the school. It's so important to learn another language. It opens the world for you. And what is your name? Anna. I was just telling Anna, when I go to Paris, which I do every year, it is cool.

00:52:44 Speaker_08
And it's cooler because I can speak the language.

00:52:49 Speaker_08
and you have entree into the society, not totally, one will never have total entree, but you can interact with your neighbors, you can interact in a restaurant, you can interact at the dry cleaner, at the supermarket, and they so appreciate an American who can speak French, yes, yes.

00:53:11 Speaker_08
And the language is beautiful.

00:53:13 Speaker_04
Aimee starts looking around. Maurice moves closer and leans in to hear why his wife is doing that nervous laugh. As Barbara explains to Aimee, a Puerto Rican woman, that being bilingual makes a person more sophisticated. Aimee is exceedingly polite.

00:53:31 Speaker_08
— Paris is a lodestar, and if you really want to enjoy it, you've got to speak the language. — It was a pleasure! Thank you.

00:53:43 Speaker_04
That entire conversation, Aimee never mentioned to Barbara that she does speak another language, Spanish. Later, I ask her why. She shrugs it off.

00:53:53 Speaker_10
I said, no, I just let her talk. It's OK. It was all right, so.

00:53:58 Speaker_03
Do you remember when you were telling me about the silent tantrum that you're having?

00:54:02 Speaker_00
Yeah.

00:54:04 Speaker_03
How would I know if that was happening?

00:54:05 Speaker_10
You wouldn't. Only my husband would. If I'm throwing a silent tantrum. He would know if I'm throwing a silent tantrum.

00:54:14 Speaker_03
So is that happening right now?

00:54:15 Speaker_14
No, not right now.

00:54:18 Speaker_04
Aimee turns her back to her husband, facing me. And behind her, Maurice is looking right at me, nodding vigorously. Yes.

00:54:36 Speaker_04
So here we were in our fancy clothes on the Upper East Side of Manhattan, raising money for a French program at an utterly normal Brooklyn public school. That was already weird.

00:54:46 Speaker_04
But the toasts — the toasts were when the cognitive dissonance of the evening really kicked in for me. Fabrice steps up onto the marble staircase and clinks his glass, announces it's time to celebrate what we've created and raise some money.

00:55:02 Speaker_25
— It takes a village It takes a dedicated principal. She's here with us. It takes... Yes, yes, yes.

00:55:12 Speaker_04
Fabrice hands the mic to Principal Juman.

00:55:14 Speaker_05
Hi! It's so nice to see all of you. And I think, you know, the number one thing is I think all of us standing here believe in public education and believe that all students... Yes.

00:55:27 Speaker_04
One by one, people are talking about equality and diversity and community and the meaning of public education. here at the Cultural Services Policial Palace, full of white people.

00:55:39 Speaker_23
-"So, I went on the sixth-grade trip. 11-year-olds going overnight trip up into the Catskills. I would not recommend doing that."

00:55:49 Speaker_04
Rob gives a toast about that time he went on the overnight trip. It starts off okay, but then veers into strange and sort of cringey territory. He's on a ropes course, 40 feet up, looking down.

00:56:03 Speaker_23
Below me were that diverse group of kids. They were diverse kids belaying me, making sure that when I jumped, they would actually cushion my fall.

00:56:11 Speaker_23
That day, each of those kids was going to climb up that pole and was going to have the same opportunity and the same challenge. And it made me think that that's what this school is about.

00:56:20 Speaker_23
It's about the opportunity to do the International Baccalaureate, the challenge of it. It's about the opportunity to explore French

00:56:30 Speaker_04
I agree with Rob. It's great to give kids equal access to opportunity. But what they're being given access to are the opportunities that Rob and the other white parents care about.

00:56:45 Speaker_04
Downstairs, I find Susan, IME's PTA co-president, on a bench by herself. She's near the band, drinking wine, looking a little dumbstruck. I ask if she's okay. This is something else, she says.

00:56:58 Speaker_04
And then she adds, it's just hard to explain how this is a public school fundraiser.

00:57:11 Speaker_04
When the founder of American public education, Horace Mann, laid out his vision for public schools back in the day, he rode his horse around Massachusetts, podium to podium, and his pitch was common schools would make democracy possible.

00:57:26 Speaker_04
They would bind us to one another, indoctrinate us, give us the skills and tools we'd need for democratic living. Public schools, he believed, would be the great equalizer.

00:57:38 Speaker_04
Rich and poor would come together and develop what he called fellow feeling, and in doing so, quote, obliterate factitious distinctions in society. For that to happen, you need everyone in the same school together. At SIS, they'd gotten that far.

00:57:55 Speaker_04
Everyone was in the same school together. But there was no equalizing. We can be in the same school together and not be equal, just like we can be in the same country together. It's not enough. What do we do about that?

00:58:13 Speaker_04
After the gala, money poured into SAS, and more white families enrolled their kids at the school. But in the years after that, there was a backlash. And SIS changed in ways that made Rob question himself. He wondered if he'd made mistakes.

00:58:29 Speaker_04
He told me he thought they all wanted the same thing for the kids. He just didn't know. Not knowing? That happens a lot with white parents.

00:58:39 Speaker_04
I looked into the history of this school, and I learned that this wasn't the first time white parents showed up here.

00:58:46 Speaker_04
White parents have been involved all along, all the way back to the very beginning of this school, half a century ago, doing the same kinds of things I'd just seen. It happens again and again, white parents wielding their power without even noticing.

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Like a guy wandering through a crowded store with a huge backpack, knocking things over every time he turns. The poorest man believed public schools would make us equal. But it doesn't work. I'm not sure how to fix that.

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But I want to lay out the story, the whole story, of this one American public school. Because what I am sure of is that in order to address inequality in our public schools, we are going to need a shared sense of reality.

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At the very least, it's a place to start. us next time on Nice White Parents. Nice White Parents is produced by Julie Snyder and me, with editing on this episode from Sarah Koenig, Nancy Updike, and Ira Glass. Neil Drumming is our managing editor.

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